In, not of. Being with, not carousing with (Matthew 11:19)

"The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is justified by her deeds." - Matthew 11:19

I often take this to the extreme of 'well then maybe we'll all get to the end of our lives and wish we been eating and drinking more,' when what we're probably supposed to get from this is simply the joy of our God. He came and was willing to enter into the world of the people around Him. Be in but not of. That's the difference between being with them and carousing with them.

Unfortunately I'm not as strong, wise, or perfect as my savior and tend to get confused between two or walk a line I should not. This is to say I think we really are called to enjoy some things with our non-believing friends and show them that the things of this world were created by God. But at the same time to not worship and demonstrate God's power and strength over them.

When doing this don't get confused between right and wrong. Don't end up being an actual glutton and drunkard - and by all means follow the laws of the land, the restaurant, and your family. But a beer once and while with a friend can really open doors like nothing else.

Your wisdom will be justified by your deeds, so it should be pretty obvious if you've messed up.