Wrath - harsh words and anger (Proverbs 15:1

"A soft answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger" - Proverbs 15:1

As a married man I could not live the reality any more than I do. I was just thinking today about how when I get frustrated with my wife I will tell her and her apology is so authentic that even though I want to remain angry, I simply cannot.
In contrast, if she shows frustration with me, I will frequently become frustrated in return because she didn't tell me it would frustrate her (or some variance thereof).

This sounds ridiculous but the way it plays out is something like this.
me - "Honey, you're making me crazy that you did that"
her- "I'm really sorry."
her- "Honey, you're making me crazy that you did that"
me - "What?! How can that make you crazy? It's not like I did it because I wanted to make you crazy!"

Just think about who is the bigger person here. I know it's obvious to you, but do you do the same thing? If my wife apologizes like this, we both walk way edified. When I respond like I do, we both end up grumpy with one another. Anger is not a good thing.

Okay, that was a lot of expounding on a simple Proverb of which the meaning seems pretty obvious, but I wanted to paint a bit of a picture.

It's so frustrating that this can be obvious, but I can still be completely incapable of doing the right thing.